Lil was part of my life from the time of my birth, and my gratitude to her is beyond words. Above all, she was a great blessing to my father during their marriage, especially in her devotion to him when he was no longer himself. And in my widowhood, Lil, who knew what it was to lose a husband, was tremendously supportive. We were both stepdaughters and stepmothers, and we had many illuminating conversations about that relationship. A woman of great intelligence and understanding, Lil continued to learn and grow all her life, and I learned much from her about how to live and love.
I also owe to Lil the best attribute anyone can have--an abiding sense of humor. As a young child who spent many hours at the Bayer house playing with my later stepsister, Linda, I learned from Lil how to see the comic side of any situation and find humorous sayings for all occasions. One of my favorite Lilisms was "When in doubt, throw it out"--which still helps me in the never-ending cycle of decluttering. Today we know that laughter is a crucial component of good health, and I thank Lil for teaching me how to laugh. She was also, of course, a wonderful cook, and at her house I first discovered the joys of lasagna as well as her legendary hamentashen and many other edible delights.
I'm also grateful to Lil for the wonderful extended family that has enriched my and Kit's lives --not only Ron, Laurie, Rose, Abraham and Philip, but all the many (too many to name) lovely members of the Bayer and Horowitz clan whose embrace has meant so much to me and mine.
After the tragedy of losing her own mother to a drunken driver, Lil had some truly tough years, but she rose above hardship and sorrow to become the loving, giving person she was, whose contributions to the Temple, the Capitol and the Jewish Historical Society, as well as to her family and other parts of the Manchester community, are her rich legacy. At 97, she was ready to go home to the Lord, where
I hope to see her again one day, with a big hug and thanks for all the ways in which she enriched my life and made me a better person. Yeh-hi zikh-rah bah-rukh--may her memory be blessed.