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Lillian

(Siegel Bayer)

Marlow

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Lillian (Siegal) Bayer Marlow, of Manchester, CT, died peacefully at home on Wednesday, June 28, 2017. She was 97 years old. As she put it, “it’s way too late for me to die young.” She was married to the late Philip Bayer for 36 years, and to the late George Marlow for 24 years. Born in Hartford, CT, in 1919, she was one of five children of the late Aron and Fanny Siegal. She graduated from Weaver High School, where she was known as “Red” and earned many accolades. She worked as a legal secretary and, during World War II, worked for the Navy at Pratt & Whitney. She was a mother, homemaker, and an active volunteer in Hadassah, Manchester Scholarship Foundation, UJA, Israel Bonds, and Greater Hartford Jewish Historical Society. When Phil passed away in 1977, she embarked on a career in the state legislature, working in the Senate Majority Leader’s office and carving out a distinct role for herself in politics and government. She lived life with love, vigor, and an irrepressible sense of humor, which she displayed in the face of both triumph and tragedy. She was honest and filter-less, so you always knew where you stood with her. Those who knew her have a virtually endless supply of stories to remember her by. Lillian leaves her son, Atty Aaron Bayer and his wife, Dr. Laurie Bayer, of Glastonbury, CT; her grandchildren, Rose, Philip, and Abraham Bayer, Philip Lev Berenbaum, Rabbi Ilana Grinblat, her husband Tal, and great grandchildren Jeremy and Hannah Grinblat. She was predeceased by her daughter, Linda Bayer. She will be missed as well by her nieces, nephews, friends, and members of her synagogue and community. Funeral services will be at 12:45 pm on Friday, June 30, 2017 at Beth Sholom B’nai Israel, 400 East Middle Turnpike, Manchester, CT with Rabbi Richard Plavin officiating. Interment will follow in the Beth Sholom B’nai Israel Memorial Park, Autumn Street, Manchester, CT. Shiva will be observed at her home, 51 Blue Ridge Drive, Manchester, CT, with evening services held there on Sunday, July 2nd through Wednesday July 5th at 7:00 p.m. and visiting hours from 4:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to the Bayer Marlow Fund, c/o Beth Sholom B’nai Israel or to the Jewish Historical Society of Greater Hartford. Arrangements are entrusted to Weinstein Mortuary, Hartford, CT. For further information or to sign the guest book for Lillian, please visit online at www.weinsteinmortuary.com/funerals.cfm.

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Deceased On:

Thursday, January 1, 1970

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Thursday, January 1, 1970

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From: Cindy Murchison

From Manchester, Ct

Posted On: July 5, 2017

I will miss you my dear friend,may the angels of God bring you safety to your new heavenly home. While God continue to watch over your family in your absence.
Love always Cindy & family.

From: Tom Topping

From Manchester, Ct

Posted On: July 2, 2017

Ron and family-
Sorry to hear of your mother's passing. She was the matriarch of a warm and wonderful family who we were blessed to be neighbors with back on Gerard St.
You are all in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

Tom Topping

From: dennis j riley

From norwich, ct

Posted On: July 3, 2017

Arnie--I heard your mother used that name often during my 10-years in the Senate leadership office at the capitol...Lil was one of the finest people I have met in my long life...the world truly would be a much better place if it had more people like Lil...she was a tremendous person--in the fullest meaning of those words...I will remember her in my prayers (not that she needs them)

From: Michelle DeBarge

From Portland, CT

Posted On: July 3, 2017

Dear Aaron,
I did not know your mom, but she must have been a wonderful person to have raised a son like you. Sending my sincerest condolences to you, Laurie, and your family and also my heartfelt regards for a life well-lived.
Michelle DeBarge

From: Jen Patrocinio

From Manchester, Connecticut

Posted On: July 1, 2017

From: Jen Patrocinio

From Manchester, Connecticut

Posted On: July 1, 2017

Lillian was a lovely neighbor. She loved giving the kids cookies and welcoming us into her home. She had best stories too.. always telling it like it is. We are out of town and heard of her passing and wanted to send our condolences. So very sorry for the loss of such a great lady.

From: Susan Rubin

From Manchester, CT

Posted On: June 29, 2017

Ronnie,Laurie, Rosie Bess, Abraham & Philip,

I am so sorry for your loss. Lil was larger than life . I am so grateful to be a part of your Shabbat family that allowed me the pleasure of Lil's company. I along with countless others will miss her. I will forever remember Lil for her wit, her frankness, her possessiveness of Rabbi Plavin, "Her" synagogue and her children and grandchildren.
Rest In Peace Lil Marlow
Love, Susan Rubin

From: Judi and Phil Siegal

From Ocala, FL

Posted On: June 29, 2017

Phil and I send our sincere condolences to you and yours. Hers was a life well-lived.

From: Steven M Hadge

From Tolland, CT

Posted On: June 30, 2017

Aaron and Family,
Sorry to hear of the passing of your Mom. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

From: Joan Marlow Golan

From Forest Hills, NY

Posted On: July 9, 2017

Lil was part of my life from the time of my birth, and my gratitude to her is beyond words. Above all, she was a great blessing to my father during their marriage, especially in her devotion to him when he was no longer himself. And in my widowhood, Lil, who knew what it was to lose a husband, was tremendously supportive. We were both stepdaughters and stepmothers, and we had many illuminating conversations about that relationship. A woman of great intelligence and understanding, Lil continued to learn and grow all her life, and I learned much from her about how to live and love.

I also owe to Lil the best attribute anyone can have--an abiding sense of humor. As a young child who spent many hours at the Bayer house playing with my later stepsister, Linda, I learned from Lil how to see the comic side of any situation and find humorous sayings for all occasions. One of my favorite Lilisms was "When in doubt, throw it out"--which still helps me in the never-ending cycle of decluttering. Today we know that laughter is a crucial component of good health, and I thank Lil for teaching me how to laugh. She was also, of course, a wonderful cook, and at her house I first discovered the joys of lasagna as well as her legendary hamentashen and many other edible delights.

I'm also grateful to Lil for the wonderful extended family that has enriched my and Kit's lives --not only Ron, Laurie, Rose, Abraham and Philip, but all the many (too many to name) lovely members of the Bayer and Horowitz clan whose embrace has meant so much to me and mine.

After the tragedy of losing her own mother to a drunken driver, Lil had some truly tough years, but she rose above hardship and sorrow to become the loving, giving person she was, whose contributions to the Temple, the Capitol and the Jewish Historical Society, as well as to her family and other parts of the Manchester community, are her rich legacy. At 97, she was ready to go home to the Lord, where
I hope to see her again one day, with a big hug and thanks for all the ways in which she enriched my life and made me a better person. Yeh-hi zikh-rah bah-rukh--may her memory be blessed.

From: Louise Cooper Byron

From Wilmington, NC

Posted On: June 30, 2017

Wonderful person, caring, good sense of humor, highly regarded by all who knew her. May she rest in peace.

From: Alan Jay Snyder

From Pembroke Pines, FL

Posted On: June 30, 2017

Lillian was one of the most gracious, vibrant and effervescent people I have ever known. My memories extend to when I was in Junior high school in Manchester (and I am 70 now). Although I moved from Manchester after I married in 1971, I relished the times I met Lillian, mostly at annual high holiday services which I attended with my parents and in-laws, all of whom lived in Manchester until their passing. I will always have a place in my heart for this marvelous lady and magnificent role model. Rest in peace.

From: Sissy seader

From Manchester, Ct

Posted On: July 1, 2017

Hi
I have been fortunate to have known Lil for 64 years and shared many events
and laughs with her. She wS a unique woman. One of my favorite
"liliisms" is when on her 90th birthday she was asked how she managed to
live so long she quickly responded "I didn't, die"!!! Lil will be missed by all.
She will always have a warm and special place in my heart.
Sissy

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